Исключающая выборка связанных значений

create table #VRelationsOfLists
(
  id_relation int,
  id_row int,
  id_list int,
  name_list nvarchar(100),
  id_value int,
  value nvarchar(100)
)
 
insert into #VRelationsOfLists
(
  id_relation,
  id_row,
  id_list,
  name_list,
  id_value,
  value
)
values
(1,1,6,'countries',10,'russia'),
(1,1,7,'region',13,'omskaya'),
(1,1,8,'city',18,'omsk'),
(1,2,6,'countries',10,'russia'),
(1,2,7,'region',14,'permskaya'),
(1,2,8,'city',16,'perm'),
(1,3,6,'countries',19,'ukraine'),
(1,3,7,'region',20,'kievskaya'),
(1,3,8,'city',21,'kiev')

  SELECT DISTINCT id_value,[value] FROM #VRelationsOfLists WHERE id_list = 6 --Получили список стран
  --Выбрали страну с id 10
  SELECT DISTINCT id_row FROM #VRelationsOfLists WHERE id_value IN(10)--Получили список связанных строк с id 10
  
  --SELECT COUNT(DISTINCT id_row) FROM VRelationsOfLists WHERE id_value IN(10)
 
  SELECT * FROM #VRelationsOfLists WHERE id_list = 7 AND id_row IN(1,2)--Получили список областей
  --Выбрали область с id 13
  SELECT DISTINCT id_row FROM #VRelationsOfLists WHERE id_value IN(10,13) --Получили список связанных строк с id 10,13
  SELECT COUNT(DISTINCT id_row) FROM #VRelationsOfLists WHERE id_value IN(10,13)
 
  SELECT * FROM #VRelationsOfLists WHERE id_list = 8 AND id_row IN(1)